Sunday, August 30, 2009
A Week Full of Lessons
So many things discovered, so many things to think about, and SO many things to anticipate!
I guess that for the most part, my life has pretty much felt as if it has been placed "on hold." And after a crazy journey, I'm kinda feeling like I'm coming out of the grey.
I have struggled a lot over the past year with regrets. There have been several moments in my life in which I felt I wasn't as "fair" as I should or could have been. Times in my life when my reaction to certain things/people was quite a bit on the shallow side. God has really convicted me over the past few years in regards to judging people and my relationship to them. He has taught me the importance of looking beyond the exterior and concentrating on what's on the inside of others. ...Sometimes I catch myself over-analyzing behavioral patterns; however sometimes I feel as if it's Satan's way of manipulating the mind into thinking it's ok to judge people. I'm definitely a "work in progress" and for those who know me, know that about me! :)
Anyway...I get overwhelmed sometimes. Chatting with people on facebook and re-living the past can be painful for me. Because I know that I haven't always been "fair." Thankfully...the ones I haven't been fair to are forgiving.
This has been a hard, yet incredible lesson to learn. The irony is...since I was a teen, I have known what it feels like to be judged/made fun of. And it hurt. It is emotionally damaging when your so-called peers make jokes about you. Especially when you're a girl. So why...or rather when, did I think it was acceptable to turn the table around? I don't know...but I've decided that I will react that way no longer and do the best I can to make ammends with the ones I may have directly or indirectly hurt.
The second lesson came to me when I was boasting about having a "great day." Within a few hours I was singing a different tune as I backed into someone at the Shell station. Never boast! :)
I also learned this week that five hour energy drinks are my friend.
I sat in the church nursery this morning, after spending an exhausting day in the heat on Saturday, and learned the importance of counting your blessings. There was a teenage girl who has requested to volunteer on the weekends. I had never met this girl but have seen her around several times, being pushed in a wheelchair by at least two other individuals. I recall the day she was baptized and the reaction from the church body. Today...I had the pleasure of introducing myself to her. This young woman has such a zest for life. Her smile and personality absolutely lit up the nursery! She was there for one reason...to love on kids. Without directly inquiring exactly why she was in wheelchair, I couldn't help but overhear my boss holding a conversation with her. She is in high school...and was born with cerebral palsy. She has a twin sister that is completely healthy, but for whatever reason, God placed this handicap on her. When the diagnosis was spoken, my heart sank. I tuned in to the conversation and began speaking to her with more compassion than I ever thought was possible. "Do people make fun of you in school?" was a question that was asked, (not by me although I wondered). "oh, yeah" was her response. But it wasn't sympathetic. She didn't feel sorry for herself. If anything, she felt sorry for the people that ridicule and make fun of her!!! What a testimony!!!
And it struck me. Do people make fun of my son?! Talk about a helpless feeling!!! And THEN to be informed that they do...within the youth group?! How can people be so...cruel?
I know that through enduring difficulties, your character is strengthened. I just have a really hard time with the fact that such lessons have to be learned at such a young age. Parental instinct says...head to youth group, kick tail and start taking names. But spiritual instinct says...this will make him strong. Maybe not now, maybe not 5 years from now. But it will. And he will eventually develop even more compassion and extend more grace than most people can offer in a lifetime. I love the thought of that.
So then...I come home today, go about my cleaning and laundry. When it's finished, I sit down at the computer thinking to myself, "finally...I can upload pictures on facebook and blog a little bit." Enter in a text message from a friend.
There had been a terrible car accident this afternoon, involving someone from our church, her little boy and three other children. Prayer was being sought after. Immediately my body went numb. What do I do? What can I do?
After several phone calls to any connections I could think of I discovered more of the incident. Child air lifted to UC Davis. Little girl had a leg amputated. Can this be real? I called my mom who is in Washington state. I don't know what to do! Who can I call to seek prayer from?! Ultimately, I knew that I was to "go." Really? What can I do? And I still don't know why...but I know that if it were me driving that car...and my son that was air lifted...I would want to know that someone was at the very least...there.
Such a tragedy. I still don't know what I'm feeling right now. It's just one of those things that is completely out of your hands and in the hands of God. And that's just life....
Anyway...it's been an emotionally draining day for me. For a lot of people. And it's a horrible way to learn a lesson, but one that needs to be learned nonetheless. Life is too short and life is way too precious to allow the little things to consume you...and cause you to neglet what is truly the most important!
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Wishing Upon a Star
I wish I could sit down with my best friend at least once a week (face to face) and chat like best friends should.
Sunday, August 23, 2009
A Truly Amazing Afternoon...
...priceless...
Juliette trying to get Nick to play.
I strolled around the property to snap a few shots, climbing up on an old IH combine! :)
More chains....
Walking across the canal...so "serious."
Mike and Mary are extremely blessed with such an amazing view...I wonder if they would notice if I built a little log cabin on their property?!
Moving along on our journey, over the canal where Nick decided to take a break and Bosco came to check on him. :)
The sky was so beautiful today....
Talk about crazy! This tree grew through a barbed wire fence!!!
This was the final shot of Bosco for the day and I think it really proves that he is in his element.
Thursday, August 20, 2009
For a Friend
I realized today while I was at work that my blog post last night was a lot of...well, basically a lot of nothing so I took care of it. If any of you read it and could actually make sense out of it, then kudos to you! (You must be as deliriously beat as I am!!!)
Anyway...shortly after I posted last night, a friend of mine sent me a message in regards to something I said to them. This person struggles in ways that are different than mine and yet we share a common bond in that we both "struggle." I firmly believe that as Christians, we are called to encourage, uplift, and support one another. Upon reading the message in my inbox last night, I was heartbroken to read how a fellow believer reacted to someone who was sincerely trying to open her heart and express her raw emotions in an honest way.
I read something today that totally reminded me of this person and what they are presently going through and so I wanted to share:
This is taken from a book called, "The Signature of Jesus" by Brennan Manning.
"Henri Nouwen tells the story of an old man who used to meditate early every morning under a big tree on the bank of the Ganges River. One morning, after he had finished his meditation, the old man opened his eyes and saw a scorpion floating helplessly in the water. As the scorpion was washed closer to the tree, the old man quickly stretched himself out on one of the long roots that branched out into the river and reached out to rescue the drowning creature. As soon as he touched it, the scorpion stung him. Instinctively, the man withdrew his hand. A minute later, after he had regained his balance, he stretched himself out again on the roots to save the scorpion. This time the scorpion stung him so badly with his poisonous tail that his hand became swollen and bloody and his face contorted with pain.
At that moment, a passerby saw the old man stretched out on the roots struggling with the scorpion and shouted, "Hey, stupid old man, what's wrong with you? Only a fool would risk his life for the sake of an ugly, evil creature. Don't you know you could kill yourself trying to save that ungrateful scorpion"
The old man turned his head. Looking into the stranger's eyes, he said calmly, "My friend, just because it is the scorpion's nature to sting, that does not change my nature to save."
Sitting here at my typewriter in my study, I turn to the symbol of the crucified Christ on the wall to my left. And I hear Jesus praying for his murderers, "Father, forgive them. They do not know what they are doing."
The scorpion he had tried to save had finally killed him. To me, the passerby who sees him stretched out on the tree roots and who shouts, "Only a madman would risk his life for the sake of an ugly, ungrateful creature," Jesus answers, "My friend, just because it is fallen mankind's nature to wound, that does not change my nature to save.""
And to my friend...I love you. I love what you're doing and I love that you're persevering, even though you may not feel like it! :) God bless you and Rich for your hearts. You're forever changing a little guy's life and showing him love like he's more than likely never known... Stay strong!
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Dear Nick
When I awake...it will be to get you up and ready for your 7th grade school year. It is so incredibly difficult for me to imagine.
I know that you are excited, but for your mom...it means that you are one year closer to graduation and then off to follow your dreams in college. One step closer to stepping away from being a "mamma's boy."
You are such an incredible kid and I am so proud of who you are!
You make me laugh more than you make me upset. You know how to make me smile when I feel like there's not much to smile about. And you can show love like no one else I know.
7th grade is going to be a whole new journey for you. I know...I've been there. My wish is that you hold true to your convictions. Always. Treat others the way you would always like to be treated. And most of all...enjoy your youth. It really does go by way too quickly, and you will never get it back. Build memories. Build relationships. And continue to build that extremely rare and beautiful character that you have begun. The world loves you Nick...
There will be many moments of frustration and discouragement, caused by me and others. But don't let that stand in the way of who you are. Life is hard, but you have proven yourself to be strong.
Don't ever, ever be afraid to come to me whenever you need to talk. I know opening up to a parent can feel uncomfortable, but for 12 years it has been you and I. That will never change. There is nothing that you could ever say or do that would cause me to love you any less. You are my life.
I love you Nick...more than you will ever begin to understand. And I am so very proud of you. You continue to bless my life more and more each and every day...
Love,
Mom
p.s. If you could learn how to become more of a morning person, I would greatly appreciate it! :)
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Is it Friday YET?!
Anyway...I have found my peace in reading (BIG surprise!) a book that was given to me a few years ago. The "gift-giver" knew that I enjoyed reading Max Lucado and was gracious (and lucky) enough to give me one that I had not yet read. I am almost ashamed to admit this, but I began reading it shortly after it was given to me and then it got lost on my shelf! But with all my frustrations (and anger) this week I picked it up and started over. And today as I was reading...it was as though the author himself wrote in big red letters at the beginning of the chapter, "Angie...this is for you. I know you've had a bad week and because of the misfortune you have in being part of an unpleasant "atmosphere" during the day, I want to offer you "HOPE.""
Max Lucado's, 3:16 The Numbers of Hope:
The chapter is called, "What Makes Heaven Heavenly." I think that most Christians try to grasp, and sometimes paint their own pictures of what heaven is going to be like. Today, I was blessed with an encouraging outlook:
Friday, August 7, 2009
Football and Life Lessons
If you've read my last few posts, you may have learned a few things about me. I love to read...especially when reading material "challenges" me. I don't consider myself a "know-it-all" kind of person, although there may be a few people out there who would disagree! As a teen, I loved Debate class. I can still hear Mr. Dean "calling me out" a few times with his, "Now Miss Brooks, there is no room for sarcasm" speech. Sarcastic...YES. "Wise?"...far from it! And so I read. To challenge myself, and to further my knowledge on life...and Scripture.
In reading this past week I have discovered two things. Make that three.
Let me summarize on the points that impacted me.
The Setup:
A vast army from Edom is marching against you from beyond the Dead Sea. v. 2
"There's an enemy out there...There are enemies, plural out there."
Jehoshaphat was terrified... v. 3
"Adversity causes us to worry and experience fear. Adversity, worry, and fear can cause us to draw closer to the Lord. Jehoshaphat was afraid, but what did he do with that fear?"
...and begged the Lord for guidance. v. 3
"He used that fear to focus more intently on his Lord. Pain usually sends us to the extremes. We're either pulled further away from God or drawn closer to Him."
The Strategy:
You are powerful and mighty; no one can stand against you! v. 6
"Power over adversity is in God's hands. No one can touch Him! If we're going to be victorious against our multiple enemies, it is not going to be because of any human strategy or advantage. It is all coming from the Lord. God wants us to exercise our faith and trust Him."
We stand in your presence. ...We can cry out to you to save us, and you will hear us and rescue us. v. 9
"We give it all to God. He will hear us and take care of us. We cry to Him. Life is so painful, so traumatic, so dysfunctional that all we can do is fall flat on our face and scream out to God, "Please do something to help me!" And the beauty is that He hears our cries. I just love that rapid-fire succession of verbs: we stand, we cry, You hear, You rescue."
We are powerless against this mighty army that is about to attack us. We do not know what to do, but we are looking to you for help. v. 12
"We are powerless and without answers. Our eyes are on God. We are powerless against our enemies. We can't do it on our own. We surrender our will to the One who can do it Himself-God Himself."
The Battle:
The battle is not yours, but God's. v. 15
"There will be victory, but it's not because we are amazing. It is because God is."
You will not even need to fight. Take your positions; then stand still and watch the Lord's victory. v. 17
"We don't need to fight, but we do need to stand in order to see God deliver us. He could have instructed the army to take the day off. But no, God required that the army come out in full preparation for battle and stand. Why would the Lord require such a posture? He requires it in order to show us that we cannot even begin to consider assuming a position of passivity. We need to prepare to get hit."
Then King Jehoshaphat bowed low with his face to the ground...worshiping the Lord. v. 18
"Even in the middle of our adversity, we must still keep our focus on the Lord. It all comes down to faith. Can you trust God to deliver you? ...It's not easy, but it's still required. It's not simple, but it's right. It is never wrong to put your trust in God. Even though it may look bleak now, remember: God will never disappoint you."
The Blessing:
The armies of Moab and Ammon turned against their allies from Mout Seir and killed every one of them. After they had destroyed the army of Seir, they began attacking each other. v. 23
"Your obstacles might be more complicated than the battle of 2 Chronicles, but God can handle them. For so many of us, the name of the game these days is wait. We're being faithful. We're trusting God. But nothing seems to be happening. Hang in there, friend. Just because it isn't happening now doesn't mean it isn't going to happen. It's all a matter of timing-God's perfect timing."
There was so much plunder that it took them three days just to collect it all! v. 25
"God will deliver. We won't know when, and we won't know how. But He will. And when He does...we will reap the rewards for a long time. Can you even imagine that outcome in your situation? Because of all you have been asked to endure, your reward is so extensive that it may take you the rest of your life to fully appreciate it!"
The men...returned...overjoyed that the Lord had given them victory over their enemies. ...So Jehoshaphat' kingdom was at peace, for God had given him rest on every side. v. 27, 30
"It's quiet. It's reflective. It's peaceful. It is our reward for being so faithful to a God who promises to be faithful to us."
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Confusion
Did you find him?
Don't worry, I didn't either! You see, I was aiming for the large group of players assuming he was among them. Truthfully, I didn't know where he was!
My boy. My son. A face that I have seen day in and day out for 12 years!
Yet, I couldn't find him on the football field. How could I not find him!!!
All of this got me to thinking about how amazing it is to have a God that doesn't have a problem with "finding" his children.
He never loses sight of us. Never confuses or mistakes us for someone else. And even when our "uniforms are the same color" (conforming to the patterns of this world) or we're "weighed down with padding" (carrying around our burdens and not surrendering) or we are "hidden under our helmets" (ashamed or consumed with guilt for our sins) He sees us.
Poor Nick...he was looking through the pictures and was making fun of me because I had taken so many, but he was hardly in any of them. So I had to come clean and tell him that I couldn't tell which one he was. What a bad mom I am! Actually, he giggled at the whole thing.
Great sunsets the past few nights!
And the moon? Breathtaking!
Some day I'll figure out how to capture it on the camera!
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
A Simple Post
"...But mom...you don't know how hard this is!" No...no I don't. But I DO remember the first few weeks of volleyball practice. The drills, the running, and questioning "Could you tell me again why we have to do this?" So no, I don't know exactly how "tough" it is. But I DO know that during this process, it will build up endurance, discipline, and strength of character. I'm looking forward to the "bigger" picture. Nick? Well...he can't wait until school starts. School=3 practices a week instead of 4! (Dare I tell him that 7th grade will be more challenging than 6th?)
Anyway...I finished my Max Lucado book. Loved it!
And I am already on the 2nd chapter of the Bill Butterworth book, "Mountain in my Rearview Mirror." With a title like that...how could I NOT want to read it. I had mixed feelings at first. The Intro was amazing, my feelings changed a little after reading the first chapter. Couldn't figure out where he was going with it until the very last paragraph. Once I "got it" I was hooked. GREAT BOOK!!! I had never heard of him until last week on K-LOVE during a "Life Changing" segment on their radio show. He touched on his book and I knew that I needed to purchase it. It's wonderful!
Crazy night at the church last night. Crazy kids. Out of control to put it "mildly." 6 kids...one headache! Just obnoxious and...well, just "kids being kids." When I was leaving the church (and breathing a sigh of relief) I looked up and there you have it...a full moon! Wonder why it is that full moons have such an impact on a person's behavior? I decided tonight that I am going to do some research. Seriously, when I saw the full moon, it all made sense!
Touched base with yet another friend from high school this week on facebook. That whole networking site is addicting. People I truly never would have thought I'd hear from ever again... and yet there they are! Sometimes it's overwhelming...in both an encouraging and a nostalgic kind of way. I enjoy it.
So that's it...a lot of nothing! :) I DO encourage anyone reading this...to go out and purchase "Mountain in my Rearview Mirror." I'm happy to loan mine out when I'm done with it...but I am a highlighting fool! :)
Next post I may even give you a preview!